You may have wondered where I’ve been lately? I’m just taking some time out with my family and my husband, I’m still recovering from my neck pain too. We are also still in lockdown in regional NSW which has been hard. If you’re in lockdown, then, I hope you’re okay? It’s a very tough time for all. Please reach out if you need a chat?
When I write a post online, I put my heart and soul into it, I’m always honest and open with you about my thoughts and feelings which enables me to write creatively and truthfully, I really do wear my heart on my sleeve. I know you would all appreciate my honesty and thoughts, I’m just finding it really hard to put my feelings into words and don’t condone any kind of bullying and won’t stand for such behaviour on my social platforms
I’m so sick and tired of all the division and the fighting that’s happening in our country right now. I never thought I’d see the day where this would happen! But here we are! I have lived in Australia for 15 years and became an Australian citizen in 2020 and I proudly took the pledge under God. It was a memorable day.
I believe in freedom! Please don’t bully others because they feel differently! We are all in this together!
My husband Mark has bagged himself an early father’s day present. He has been *gifted* the freshly shaven shower scrub from @menwhoscrub. This particular scent smells absolutely incredible but you can get the scrub in few other scents too such as lime and coconut and salted caramel. Mark has also been *gifted* the magnesium spray too which is useful for aches and pains, it can also help with a good night’s sleep. I think I might be stealing the magnesium spray from him but don’t tell him 🤫😆
Men who Scrub was created by a lovely lady called Bridie and her husband Dan. Bridie was sick of Dan stealing her scrubs, now the men in our lives have an irresistible range of scrubs for the ladies to steal 😉 I’m already eyeing up the salted caramel scented one 😉🙃
Their scrubs are amazing for removing all the dirt and grime of the day, you are left exfoliated, smooth and smelling delicious.
Men who Scrub is handmade on the Central Coast, Australia using all natural ingredients with a variety of high quality fragrances to suit EVERYONE!
Self-care is the latest source of “mum guilt” for Aussie Mum’s, a survey of 1,000 mothers of young children across Australia has revealed, with 85 percent of mothers surveyed admitting feeling guilt about not spending enough time on their own self-care, while paradoxically, feeling guilty when they do.
The research, conducted by Australian pregnancy multivitamin brand, Natalis, revealed that while the vast majority of the mothers surveyed (94%), admitted they would benefit from more self-care, nearly the same amount (96%) reported feeling guilty for spending time on self-care activities at least some of the time.
While the overwhelming message from mothers surveyed was that self-care was extremely important to their wellbeing, more than 1 in 2 (53%) reported feeling pressured to practice self-care and feeling like a failure when they don’t get enough.
According to Emmy Samtani, parenting expert and founder of parenting app Kiindred, which used its platform to survey mothers, the concept of ‘self-care,’ popularised across social media by ‘mumfluencers’ and celebrities alike (#selfcare), has been both a blessing and a curse for Aussie mums.
“On one hand, the self-care movement has been great for highlighting how important it is for us to take an active role in protecting our own wellbeing and happiness, but on the flip side, it’s become another item on the to do list,” said the entrepreneur and mother of three children under six.
“If we don’t get to it, we feel guilty about it, and if we do, we feel guilty about everything else we’re not doing.”
Other key findings:
Two in three (76%) admitting that the state of their house and the piling laundry was reason enough to strike self-care off the list, followed closely by the guilt for taking time away from the children (61%) or their partner (48%).
More than 1 in 4 (28%) typically have less than 10 minutes per day to put towards something for themselves, while 8% have less than 5 minutes.
Many admitted to sacrificing sleep, with nearly one in two (43%) going to bed late, and a quarter (24%) setting their alarm earlier, just to find a peaceful moment alone.
When asked what mums did regularly to fill their cup, self-care was a fairly tame affair, with nearly half of respondents (47%) acknowledging that scrolling on their phones, or chilling with Netflix (37%) was their most common activity, followed closely by enjoying a coffee while hot (36%) or washing their hair (35%).
When asked to reflect upon what the ultimate self-care experience might involve, date night was deemed the ultimate self-care activity (44%), followed by a night of uninterrupted sleep (34%) a hot bath alone (30%), and socialising with friends in person or via phone/text (20%), all rating well and truly above intimacy with their partner (8%).
Proving they’re not a fussy bunch, 17 percent of mothers surveyed said they’d consider being left alone for more than 10 minutes for any reason at all as a desirable self-care activity, while 15 percent said they’d be satisfied just drinking a coffee while it was still hot.
“It’s not news that as mothers, we’re time poor, but while celebrities and social media superstars might be conjuring up images of #selfcare as a luxurious spa day or beach-side meditation session, the reality is that self-care for mums of young kids is probably going to look a little less glamorous,” said Samtani.
“Self-care should not be about shame or comparison, but about finding the thing that fills your cup. If for you, that’s mindlessly scrolling on your phone, or sitting outside in the sun for five minutes to drink a coffee while the TV babysits the kids, then that’s self-care,” she said. “If you can carve out time to have a long, hot bath, or get a babysitter and head out with your partner, that’s great too,” she said.
Samtani cautions though, that self-care is definitely a practice. “Nothing changes if nothing changes: Start by scheduling 10 minutes each day. As hard as that can be with little ones, work with your partner or support network to schedule in those moments.”
Samanti concludes that allowing yourself to reflect upon all the things you do and provide for your family is a great place to start in freeing yourself from guilt, “There is no point in taking ten, fifteen, thirty minutes for yourself if you’re going to spend that time feeling guilty for being away from your family. We are all so busy in the day-to-day ‘doing,’ we forget to look back and see how much we’re doing for the kids – washing, cooking, kisses, cleaning, craft, homework, cuddles, lunchboxes. In the grand scheme of things, taking time to nurture yourself is not worth feeling guilty about, because honestly mum, you deserve it.”
I know for me personally as a mum of nine children under thirteen years age, self-care is important for my health and well-being. Self-care to me, is a nice hot bath, Saying some prayers, or a quick coffee break in the garden, a shopping trip, or a pamper night with my eldest daughters. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. It’s the little things that make a difference.
It’s World Down Syndrome Day (WDSD) today, a global awareness day that has been officially observed by the United Nations since 2012. People with Down syndrome have an inherent right to be accepted and included as valued and equal members of the community and today we celebrate not only their rights but their achievements.
And how are we celebrating at our house – with the help of our Miniland Dolls with Down syndrome! Like all Miniland Dolls, they are a great way to teach children about diversity and that people present in many different ways but all are worthy of respect. I grew up in England with my beautiful sister, Kerry, aged 38, who has Down syndrome, and she has taught me to be understanding, compassionate, and respectful of others and really I would not be who I am today without her. I was actually severely bullied at school though because of my sister and I think it all comes down to a lack of education, compassion, and understanding. That’s why days like today are so important to raise awareness and why dolls such as these Miniland dolls with Down syndrome really help children learn from a young age about diversity and how to treat everyone equally and with the same respect as you would to any human being.
Growing up with Kerry was so much fun! I never thought differently of her and only ever loved her for who she is. We have some amazing memories together and I will cherish those memories forever! Her personality is always shining and she gives the best hugs and kisses which sometimes turn into licks!! She would greet people she had never met before with a great big lick 😂 She makes me giggle so much! She is super funny and randomly tells you that you ‘smell’ or says “bop it” or “that’s enough”. Kerry has a great memory and can go into detail about things she remembers! Her memory is better than mine!
My kids all absolutely adore their aunty Kerry and love speaking to her on WhatsApp and Skype every week. Kerry is a beautiful and unique woman and I am in awe of how amazing she is and feel so incredibly blessed to have her in my life! I am so proud of YOU and I am so proud to be your sister! 🤩What an awesome human being you are!
I love you so much. Even though I’m far away Kerry, I think of you every day!
Have you had a conversation about diversity in your home?
It’s time for an honest and open chat. I was really inexperienced when I started my blog ‘thistribeofmine.com’ just under 3 years ago. I’ve definitely learned a lot and grown so much over this time. There’s been some amazing highs and some very low lows, I’ve even had people tell me that; “I won’t succeed” or that “I’ve missed the boat” and should “just give up now! To tell the truth there have been numerous times where I’ve wanted to throw in the towel! But I still kept going because I’m a fighter! it’s in my blood! I won’t give up! Don’t ever let others bring you down!
For the most part my journey has been amazing and I’m honestly so grateful for all of you and every opportunity that has come my way. I know I always say; ‘I’m just going with the flow’ or ‘I’m just winging it’ But I feel now as I enter my 3rd year of content creation, I want to take it more seriously and see how far I can go. I’ve also decided that some things need to change.Dont get me wrong I’m still winging it in other aspects of my life lol. It’s just time start doing things differently and more productively. I need to work out what my main focus is and build on from that. My first priority will always be my faith, family and schooling the kids but there’s no reason why I can’t implement that in with what I’m already doing. I’ve just got to find that right balance and not put too many eggs into one basket. I don’t want to overwhelm myself. I know I can do it!
I want to try and achieve some of those big goals and aspirations of mine. I’ve shared some of these with you all before but there’s so much more I want to do. For example: with help, I will hopefully be relaunching my blog and it will be bigger and better than ever before. My blog is where it all started so it only makes sense to work on this first. Writing is one of my biggest passions and it will hopefully help me work on some other side projects that I have in mind. 😉
I feel a bit nervous, but I’m excited for a new chapter and where it may lead If you read this till the end then thank you! You are amazing! Sorry for rambling on! I hope you will continue to follow my journey and see what happens next
Let’s talk about dental care. The last couple of months my family and I have been using Grin natural for our oral health care. @grinnatural is an all natural, no nasties oral health care brand. This exciting brand is a game changer in how we all view dental health care.
When it comes to my beautiful tribe, I always make sure to use all natural and economically friendly products
These beautiful products have no nasties and reduce the carbon footprint on the planet. Available in New Zealand, Asia and American, the product is now available here in Australia! This oral care brand is all about happy kids and happy families.
The beautiful Grin toothbrush breaks down in 3 months in compost! With 2.5M brushes saved worldwide Grin is lowering the carbon footprint for the planet with everyone using Grin products! How cool is that!
Brushing your teeth brings the whole family together! 2 minutes of fun in front of the mirror while you all brush turns into a much longer family experience with an amazing product that’s safe for little ones to swallow
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For the last couple of months the kids and I have been using the @mustelaau stelatopia range on our skin and hair and the results have been amazing!
As a household of 11 people we do have alot of different skin types and a skin issues like eczema and dermatitis.
1 out of 5 children are affected by atopic eczema or dermatitis. Stelatopia is a range of skincare products designed for the atopy-prone skin of babies and children. It’s fragrance-free, dermatologically tested. It also soothes, replenishes and limits red patches. Their effectiveness is clinically proven.
The stelatopia range is a natural skincare range you can trust for the whole family. It can be used on all skin types. Mustela is created in France and has been going since 1950. It’s formulated to protect every every skin type and respect our planet.
The two main natural ingredients found in this range is; Avocado perseose, and sunflower oil distillate which together help relieve dry, sore and itchy skin.
My 5 year old daughter Rose has suffered with dry rough skin for a long time but ever since she has used the products from the range it has almost cleared up!
The whole range is amazing but I particularly love the nappy rash cream as it works wonders on my younger two children especially with the warmer weather coming this will provide relief during those hot and sticky summer months.
Thankyou Mustela for always being so amazing 朗
Have you tried @mustelaau before? It’s available in all leading pharmacies across Australia.
we sponge money from Government? We don’t but this is one of the many “laughable” and “incorrect” assumptions that are made about my family and me. Quite often when people see a large family like mine especially in online media articles they assume they are sponging money from the government, or are just having a large family for the money but that is indeed a false and ridiculous assumption. My hubby works full-time and I work part-time so, we get very little money from the government. We are just very good at budgeting our finances, So when people say ” you must be loaded” The truth to that is nope we are not!! But I will say this, Think of all the little future taxpayers we are bringing up. We are a very hardworking family. We had a large family because we wanted too and because you get one shot at life, so why not live it to the fullest? We are extremely proud of what we achieved so far and are blessed that we’ve been able to have a large family
I panic to buy all my shopping. No, I don’t. I live very rural and have to grocery shop for my family fortnightly. When I do my shopping my trolley is sometimes overflowing and on some occasions, I have to go in a second time on the same trip to buy more things. I often have people coming up to me whilst I’m shopping asking if I’m ‘panic buying” and I just say: “No, This is my regular fortnight;y shop as we have 11 people to feed. You should see the shock on some of these people’s faces. Shopping fortnightly is very necessary for my family and me.
I homeschool my kids because I think I’m better than the school teachers. Again, this is another incorrect assumption. First off, I think all school teachers are amazing and I would never say I was better than them ever! We just had to make decisions that were the best four our family. We have been homeschooling our kids for the best part of 6 years now and it’s been amazing. We decided to homeschool because we live rurally and had limited options where we live and since I was I stay at home mum, It would be a good idea to homeschool them. We are registered as an official homeschool under N.E.S.A. If you were to ask me whether it’s easy to homeschool, then my answer would be No, but what I will say is that it is worthwhile. Every day is a new adventure.
I am a rich blogger! Sadly, I am not but I didn’t start my blog for the money, I started it because I was passionate about writing and wanted to document my weight loss and large family life. I also started to it to connect with other mums so that we could all have a positive outlet to share our advice, tips, and tricks with one another. I’m not sure where this assumption came from but I have received a few comments over the last couple of years assuming I was paid for everything I do with my blog. I rarely get paid work through my blog especially since COVID came. I mentioned the other day that if I do anything that is paid or a collaboration, Then I will always disclose that no matter what. I love my blog and I love the little community that I have created. You honestly all keep me going on the days that I have had enough.
I became Catholic because my husband told me too? This again is incorrect and although I married into a Catholic family all decisions were made by me only. My husband is always so supportive of everything I have decided to do. I haven’t always been a Catholic, nor was I bought up religiously, and In-fact I was baptized in the church of England as a baby. I became a Catholic eight years ago. It took me another four years after I was married to make my final decision to convert. I researched and studied so much before I decided what I wanted to do. I realized I already had faith within me, I just didn’t understand it or know how to use it. The beautiful thing about faith is that you learn something new every day. I am so glad to have made that decision to become Catholic because my life feels so much better with God in it. I understand that not everyone is religious, and that’s fine. I respect and love everyone. I am only human and make mistakes every day. I am by no-means perfect. I am still the same old bubbly & clumsy Claire that everyone knows and loves!
I like to drink a lot? Actually, no I don’t unless it’s coffee or tea because I drink heaps of that through the day to keep me sane. I do like a couple of wines on the weekend, but the truth is I’ve never been a big drinker and know my limits when it comes to alcohol. I have never been drunk in my whole life. I think when I was about 18, I was once “borderline tipsy” Go me! I also have a phobia to vomit, I think that plays a factor in it too. Yes, that is a bottle of wine in the back pocket of my bus lol. This picture was taken after a grocery shop one day, I secured the wine bottle in the back pocket so It did not break on the way home. I do have a 40-minute car journey to get home. Call it “my top mum hack”
So there you go here are some ridiculous assumptions that have made about my family and me. What’s the most ridiculous assumption someone has said about you and your family? Comment below
I’ve had some things things on mind lately that I really wanted to share but I wasn’t sure how to put it all in words so, here it goes nothing..
For the the past 2.5 years I’ve been blogging/writing and documenting my life on here and I’ve been very lucky to have had some amazing opportunities along the way which I’m truly grateful for. It was never my intention to become an ‘influencer’ it was somewhat accidental and a natural progression that’s happened over a long period of time.
I initially started my blog to document my weightloss but after some media attention and ‘public interest’ in my large family it had turned into so much more. Even though we are a fairly private family, I started to document what life is like in a household of 11 people. It’s been quite the journey!
Now here’s a shocker, I dont like the word ‘influencer’ there’s something about it that bothers me and makes me feel really cringe! Maybe it’s because it sounds weird when you say it? All I know is, it just doesn’t sit right with me浪
I critique everything I put out on my blog as I want all my content to be great, meaningful and relatable. I always strive to do better.I still make mistakes sometimes, who doesn’t? I’m only human! I’m not perfect and have never claimed to be. I do want to say though that first and foremost I’m a mother and wife and despite what you may think, I’m not just an ‘influencer/blogger. I believe there is so much more to me too, however, I’m just normal person with normal feelings trying to juggle mega motherhood but the difference is, I’m just documenting everything at the same time.
Aswell as running my blog, I’m writing a book, I’m homeschooling my kids and I also work part time from home. I have many things I want to achieve in this lifetime and hopefully I get the opportunity to do so. I don’t want to stick to doing just one thing, I want to branch out and do many new and exciting things. I’m excited for what the future may bring.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love promoting products that I truly love and believe in but I will never promote things I dislike and don’t believe in. I don’t take every collaboraton that comes my way either. Every collaboraton requires alot effort and time with things like research, genuine thoughts and feelings after trialling the products, photography, editing, writing. There’s really so much that goes into content creation.
I would never be dishonest or fake. I don’t see the point in it. I always disclose when something is gifted, sponsored or a brand ambassador program, collaboratons, and even give-aways. This is so important to do and is required by the law also. Sadly many people aren’t disclosing these things on social media, but I can only speak for myself and say that you will only ever see genuine and honest content from me and if you read this whole blog to here then thankyou! You are amazing!
Your support means everything to me ‘Thistribeofmine’ wouldn’t be here without any of you
As we all know 2020 has thrown us many curve balls and we we’ve all been left thinking “What next? Like many of us, I had big plans for this year and, well, they just did not happen! It certainly has been a strange year for us all.
I have decided that in 2021 I’m going to take control of my life and plan everything and to help me with this is the new chapter is the amazing Ultimate Family Planner 2021 family planner. This planner is absolutely fantastic because it’s designed specifically for all your family needs. You can also keep track of your diet, dinner menus, appointments, after school activities, parties, work bills, and everything else that comes with parenthood! It’s really awesome to have everything you need to keep up with in one place. This is going to make my life so much easier! Bring on the future.
The pre-sales for the 2021 Ultimate Family Planner will be live tonight at 6pm and will stay open until Friday. If you pre-order this week then you will receive your planner by November which is exciting. It would make an awesome Christmas gift for a fellow mumma.
The planners will be $69.99 but with my discount code CLAIRE10 you will receive 10% off your planner.
Don’t forget it’s live at 6pm so if you’d like to be one of the first people to get your hands on this gorgeous 2021 planner, then tonight’s the night to do so! Let me know if your order. 2021 is going to be a great year, I can feel it in my bones.